Several years ago I stopped giving up something for Lent. I value the spiritual discipline of fasting and respect those who practice it, but prefer to take up a spiritual practice during our forty day preparation for the season of Easter. To "take up" something, I focus on an area of my life and faith in which I want to follow God more faithfully.
This year, however, I may need to give up something. I may need to give up rage. My dictionary defines rage as "violent and uncontrolled anger." I have not resorted to violence lately, but I have had thoughts and feelings that, if expressed publically, would contribute nothing to the common good. I need to give up those thoughts and feelings and ask God to help me to channel my energies more productively.
I need to give up my rage at Roman Catholic bishops for what I deem hiding behind a cloak of defending First Amendment rights to impose their archaic opposition to birth control on our society. I willingly participated in a form of birth control for a significant portion of my adult life and do not consider that remotely sinful. The bishops have a right to their opinion, but they have no right to force that opinion on those outside their community. So I'll ask God to help me to listen respectfully and express myself passionately, but with an eye toward the common good.
I need to give up my rage at news media for referring to the Roman Catholic Church as "the church." A number of faithful religious bodies comprise "the church." When I rant as yet another ill-informed or ignorant newsperson incorrectly calls one church "the church," I accomplish nothing. So I'll ask God to help me to write a letter or email explaining the situation, hoping that when enough of us do that the pundits will choose more correct words.
I need to give up my rage at our Supreme Court for changing the rules to allow essentially anonymous contributions to political action committees that spew negative advertisements into our airways. Our political process needs no help oozing with sleaze, but wailing and wearing sack cloth will accomplish nothing. So I'll ask God to help me channel my energy into turning off the offensive ads and to contacting elected officials with my complaint.
I need to give up my rage at people who unabashedly offer as truth words and figures they know to be untrue. I learned that technique in debating, but it does nothing to help the uninformed. Perhaps shouting, "That's a lie" offers little help, so I'll ask God to help me to ask, "On what do you base that claim?" or "Where can I verify those figures?" Uncivil discourse keeps us in a negative spiral. We need models of civility to guide us toward the common good.
Expressed appropriately, anger communicates intense thoughts and feelings. Rage simply gets in the way and begets additional unhelpful responses. So I'll try to give up rage for Lent. God may use that space to help me to become a better listener. Perhaps I'll even hear the good news more clearly just in time for the season of Easter!
Grace and Peace,
LP